Time Blindness/ADHD can be a legitimate excuse for being chronically late, amirite?

It's a legitimate explanation. Not the same as an excuse.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Meh. I have adhd, and all my employees have adhd. If I was a stickler about people being on time I wouldn't have any employees. My employees are the most loyal and hardest working people I know because I work with their deficits, not against them. I have the highest retention rate and the best numbers any manager in my position has ever had in my company. Sure, I could tell them to grow up and start counting the seconds from the time their late and ding their paycheck.. but they would all quite within a few weeks because of the stress, and I'm stuck with a ridiculously high turnover rate again, because the positions I hire for are attractive to people with adhd. Good people with understanding exist, and it creates good things in the world.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Then you work in a lax field. I work in Healthcare(A ER specifically). A field where you absolutely have to be on time and people depend on you. And yes.. granting people some forgiveness exists.. but not in unlimited quantities. If you had a employee who was constantly hours late everyday, I bet you'd have issues with it.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You are aware that most jobs out there aren't viable if you're that late every day, right? Good for your employee for finding the one boss who's ok with that. I bet your retention rate is great. I'd certainly stay in a job that let me do that. And you're right. I've dealt with a ton of different mental illnesses and conditions. I do have a lot of empathy for them. But, I'm not going to baby someone who has a condition and who is taking zero initiative to deal with it. If you have ADHD and you're a little late every so often, meh. That's fine. I don't think it's a big deal.. But, If you're 90 mins late every single time regardless of what time you're scheduled... and I've seen zero effort to change that? Yeah. No. Find another job.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Well. I'm super sad you aren't my boss.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

So what do you do if you can't? Sure, a lot of people with ADHD can manage their symptoms, but some have it more severe than others, and some have other comorbidities. Is that them being a baby or being an adult with a disability that they cannot manage? I'm not saying to not make an effort to change those deficits and improving yourself, but what if you're giving 100% effort and only getting 30% results? Also, no where in this did I say that people have to put up with being late. I'm simply trying to make people understand what's actually going on and have more empathy for those who struggle. I also live in the real world and I am pretty damn aware of the consequences, as I have experienced them firsthand.

by Own-Management8190 1 week ago

What do you do if you can't? Accept the fact that you'll never have a job or long-term relationship where people are dependent on you. Everyone else out there is struggling too. They aren't gonna add to their own burden by depending someone unreliable. So, just look for a nice group home I guess? Do you think a future spouse is gonna want to have a kid with someone who can't pick them up from school on time? I, also, don't buy the "I can't manage it" 99% of the time. You can absolutely set alarms. You can set repeating alarms. Hell, You can set an alarm to remind you to set your alarms. Personally, I ingrained the habit in myself that I set my alarms for the day while I do my morning routine. Do that long enough and it becomes a part of you.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Performance matters. Excuses don't matter.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You said it yourself, it can be easily managed with alarms and calendar. You have ADHD, not low intelligence.

by mireyaankunding 1 week ago

What arcane esoteric object is this that you're referring to?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Actually.. people with adhd are unable to create habits. We can create routines, but habits will never form, because the pathways that are create during the formation of a habit require dopamine to travel them… which theirs is a distinct lack of.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

...People with ADHD can, in fact, very much create habits, it's just harder.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I have ADHD. I can 1000% form habits.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Must be nice to not have to force yourself to think about brushing your teeth twice a day everyday until the day you die without anyone or thing reminding you. How do you do it?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Effort. And habits and routines are pretty much the same thing at the end of the day.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You have my sympathies. Now gtfo of my workplace lol

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It doesn't matter why someone repeatedly wastes my time.

by elvie51 1 week ago

No

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Typically I'm all for leniency when it comes to ADHD and the issues because I've experienced it and understand people can be pretty unforgiving when they hear about the issues ADHDers face. However, being chronically late to things you know you have to do is your own responsibility with no excuses. Alarms, reminders, and memos are very easy to do and you can set them up to appropriately notify you well in advance. Is time blindness a reason for being late? Absolutely, but it's not an excuse for it.

by Anonymous 1 week ago